Wayne Raised this point : How would you describe your relationship with your own home or bedroom?
I’m studying the human relationship to place, in particular, home. What’s interesting is that one’s bedroom holds a spatial significance like no other. What is the significance of such a place in the formula of the individual’s sense of identity?

‘Often we are comforted by the thought that a place is ours, that we belong to it, even come from it, and therefore are tied to it in some fundamental way. Such places are thought to reaffirm our sense of self, reflecting back to us an unthreatening picture of a ground identity. This kind of continuous relationship between place and a person is what many cities declare to be lost, and needed, in contemporary society. In contrast, the “wrong” place is generally thought of as a place where one feels one does not belong – unfamiliar, disorienting, destabilizing, even threatening. This kind of stressful relationship to a place is, in turn, thought to be detrimental to a subject’s capacity to constitute a coherent sense of self and the world’ (Kwon, 2004; 164, 165).

So basically, I would like to pose the titled question, however, I’d like whoever’s kind enough to read this, to answer in any way they feel best.

Here’s the helpful replies received :

Answer by whisperdawg
Home is where the heart is. That is more than just an old cliche. I have moved many times in my life, and have been in the poshest of houses and in the seediest of motels/kitchenettes. And with my wife and two children nonetheless. But we’ve always been close knit and tight regardless of the house or structure built around us. Our home isn’t defined by wood, brick, stucco, etc…instead it is defined by love. JMHO

Answer by Victoriella
Strangely, I don’t really have one. I am happy in my home, I do feel safe and secure there, but it wouldn’t bother me leaving tomorrow. As long as my boyfriend (who I live with) is with me then I’m home anywhere. But I do feel a strong connection with my city, I love my city, the posh areas, the rough areas, the Tyne. Coming back to Newcastle after being away is an incredible feeling. Seeing the places I visited as a child always bring a smile to my face. Discovering new places in the city always bring me joy as well. I think it could be a geordie thing, we are proud of where we come from, because it’s not just the place that I love, it’s the people.

Answer by J
My room is my soul, my place of piece, I sit and I think and I process the world and I turn it into written art, or I try to, depends on the person reading it,

It’s the one place I can truly be me, and gives me a window to the wider world (you).

The external often is the inverse of the internal, the constant mess in my room symbolises my internal stillness, I am happy, content, I have no need to obsessively arrange and organise the world around me in order to try achieve an organised internal space. There is order in my chaos

Answer by Blue
My home is my Castle. It is the one place where I can truly be me, where I can truly relax, where I can gather my thoughts & where I feel safe. My home is a part of me, without it I would be lost, internally destroyed and vulnerable.

Answer by Nick
everything we externally create is a crystallization of something inner, an emotion. a home is a crystallization of the inner “home,” which is a feeling. the crystallizations are not the things themselves, but rather, devices used to try to invoke those feelings. one can have a house and yet still be “homeless.” what I would say home really is, is satisfaction/contentment/”inner peace,” if you will… how many people are homeless? a lot more than is commonly thought… how many are in “poverty”? many, many even with lots of money. perhaps they are some of the poorest people on the earth… “Nothing fails like success!”

Answer by Jesere
My home or bedroom have no bearing on my Identity
maybe because I have mover over 50 times in my life

To me it’s not the Space that matters,
it’s the Love in the Home which fills the space that matters

My Identity is prevalent in My Home Office
due to My being the one decorating it…

Answer by I believe in Healthy Fur
I believe that humans, just like animals, are somewhat territorial. My house is the only place that I can truly relax and especially the bedroom. I don’t feel tied to it so much… perhaps because I have moved around so much my whole life and it’s difficult for me to be tied to anything.

Answer by Joe
My home is everything to me, I love being home and shutting the world out lol. It is my safe haven and I love tidying it and cleaning it and taking pride in it. Home is everything to me.

Answer by nameless
How would you describe your relationship with your own home or bedroom?

~~~ It is the same, exactly, as ‘my’ relationship with the rest of the Universe!
We are all One Omni- Self!

My thoughts on ‘self';

“Cogito Ergo Sum!”
“I think, therefore I am!” – Descartes

This saying is exactly true, as it refers to the egoic construct of autonomous existence of a ‘self’, an ‘I’, as opposed to a ‘you’/’other’.
‘Ego’ is the same, one and the same, as ‘thought’!
Hence ‘thought’ being where this (egoic) ‘self’ exists. That is the ‘I’ to which the quote refers!
No ‘thought/ego’ = no egoic ‘I’!
There can be no ‘I’ without ‘thought’.
Thought, though, does not ‘create’ the egoic “I”, they are one and the same, as perceived!

The above referenced ‘I’, or small ‘s’ ‘self’ cannot exist in a thoughtless state, such as a Zen state where no such distinctions can be perceived.
There only exists ‘one’, (capital ‘S’) ‘Self!’, which is ‘Universally all inclusive’. Which does not disappear when ‘thought’ is no longer perceived!
Ask any successful meditator, or check it out yourself.

It is ‘thought’ that says, “I am not that!”

“Thou Art That!”

tat tvam asi (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tat_Tvam_Asi)

“You don’t need to take drugs to hallucinate; improper language can fill your world with phantoms and spooks of many kinds.”
-Robert A. Wilson

Answer by Toke.Lover
not my space, but more storage for the entire house….
once a play room for romantic endeavors…now more or less frustrating, but those escapades take place elsewhere…..
once a sanctuary…no longer private nor mine….my kid mines for treasure there whenever I’m not looking….


(that’s the bedroom)

as for the rest of the house…can’t remember how to spell her name, but gonna quote Lena Lovich

Home is where the heart is
Home is so remote
Home is just emotion sticking in my throat
Let’s go to your place

Answer by Bear’s. Fresh Nuts
Home is 100 yards from the house my father was born and raised in. Family roots are deep in this ground. I belong here.

Bedroom that’s where spankings take place

Answer by P
To alow yourself to be vulnerable during sleep you need to feel safe and secure for self preservation. Hotels achieve this by providing several levels of high profile security, including locks on the doors. This becomes your space, if only temporarily, sometimes with a level of synthetic personalisation which they provide by dressing the room eg thick curtains, pictures (The Scream? No!), restful colours. So not much of a relationship there.

On the other hand when you personalise your own bedroom you tend to do it in a way which makes you feel comfortable, with things you like. So you naturaly feel safe and secure and so sleep better. Over time this experience becomes reinforced so that your relationship with your bedroom encourages you to relax and be yourself. Part of your personal space.

Same with your home, filled with your posessions and items which you value for your enjoyment.